Part 1 of 5 in the Ethical Persuasion Series
Behavioral psychology gives us the playbook for human decision making. Loss aversion. Anchoring. Dopamine triggers. It’s how brands keep people scrolling, clicking, buying.
When I first started learning this, I felt unstoppable. Like I had the secret code to human behavior. But that confidence can turn dangerous if you are not careful.
Used ethically, psychology helps us build momentum for our clients and helps them follow through on what they already want.
But the line between influence and control is paper thin. And in digital business, it is one click away from being crossed.
External Control: The Freedom Framework
Long before online funnels and click through rates, psychiatrist Dr. William Glasser studied why people do what they do. He believed human action is driven by internal motivation, not external pressure.
His work, called Choice Theory, says our behavior is an effort to meet five basic psychological needs:
- Freedom
- Power
- Belonging
- Fun
- Survival
People act because of what they want, not because of what we make them want.
That idea changed how I see marketing.
I used to tell myself that smart marketing was harmless, just good strategy. Over time I started to wonder if I was empowering people or just persuading them better.
Every limited time offer and cart closing soon message bumps up against the psychology of control. We call it marketing. Sometimes it is manipulation in a prettier outfit.
And yes, I have done it. I still do it in small ways.
The digital world runs on these mechanics. The systems designed to scale also tempt us to control.
My Ongoing Conflict: Integrity and Influence
When I started Align Method, I wanted to help creators grow without the traps of manipulation and hustle culture.
If I am honest, I still catch myself using the same psychology I am questioning. Every time I write a funnel headline, I feel the pull. Do I want them to feel inspired, or do I want them to feel pressure. Sometimes it is hard to tell the difference.
It is easy. It works. The tools we use, like funnels, upsells, and automation, are engineered for it.
So maybe the real question is not whether I am a hypocrite. Maybe it is whether I can stay self aware enough to notice when I cross the line. Alignment is not perfection. Alignment is awareness.
From Control to Collaboration
I realized I do not have to choose between psychology and integrity. Here is what I have learned.
You can use psychology to manipulate, or you can use it to motivate with integrity. The difference is intent.
If your funnel helps someone take action on something they already want, that is alignment. If it corners them into a yes they will regret, that is control.
At Align Method, I teach creators to use systems that enhance autonomy, not override it.
Systems that make it easier to choose, not harder to escape.
The Humbling Truth
Behavioral psychology works. Choice Theory reminds us it should not control. The art of ethical business lives between those truths.
I will probably fall into the trap again. We all will. It is baked into the landscape we built. Maybe the same psychology that tempts us to control is also the one that reminds us to connect.
If we keep asking, “Am I guiding this person?” and also ask, “Am I quietly removing their ability to choose?” With these answers, we can build an ethical foundation. This approach fosters entrepreneurship that is both profitable and principled.
My Takeaway
I do not want to run a business that wins by outsmarting people. I want to build one that empowers them.
Being morally aligned is not only about ethics. It is also a business strategy.
When you respect human behavior instead of trying to hack it, you do not need to manipulate demand. You earn it.
The Align Method Philosophy
This is the heart of Align Method. Systems that scale human behavior without selling your soul.
It took me years to unlearn the idea that growth requires control.
Alignment scales better.
You already built the dream. Now make it sustainable with Align Method.
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